tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post392564659295318850..comments2023-05-11T14:42:01.345+03:00Comments on How to Be Israeli: How to give gifts like an IsraeliMaya / מיהhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09871125878143128412noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-2690710039887041692012-07-19T16:42:18.650+03:002012-07-19T16:42:18.650+03:00A good Israeli friend of mine is getting married, ...A good Israeli friend of mine is getting married, and I would like to give the couple something. But as a Goy I am not familiarized with the etiquette. If I send some money, how much? What about donating some money? Like JNF and "get" som trees in their name or some other organization? I need help ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-76247756176059999732012-01-29T11:05:10.138+02:002012-01-29T11:05:10.138+02:00Nice to see you blogging again :)
It seems to me ...Nice to see you blogging again :)<br /><br />It seems to me that money in lieu of gifts is more popular with secular Israelis - in religious weddings, gifts are more common.<br /><br />Also, while there are aspects I don't like about giving money (especially the calculations you get into about "how much did they give at our wedding?"), it is a lot more convenient both from the viewpoint of the giver (especially for me, since I've always hated picking out gifts) and from the POV of the receiver (no trekking between 10 diferrent stores to exchange stuff you don't wan't/need)Eyalnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-35258587777939595792012-01-24T17:11:34.955+02:002012-01-24T17:11:34.955+02:00So nice to have you back! Great post as always - w...So nice to have you back! Great post as always - why are you always so much better at saying what I think?tobyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02539537363084834903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-88510212549758456262012-01-23T20:54:27.486+02:002012-01-23T20:54:27.486+02:00Nice to see your whole post on Janglo!Nice to see your whole post on Janglo!Dinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03461925401870320466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-82487057635918779822012-01-23T19:32:13.549+02:002012-01-23T19:32:13.549+02:00By the way-- does anyone know why the font for com...By the way-- does anyone know why the font for comments looks so weird right now?Maya / מיהhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09871125878143128412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-9375172858810159542012-01-23T19:28:14.313+02:002012-01-23T19:28:14.313+02:00I love to make and give homemade gifts, which are ...I love to make and give homemade gifts, which are quite possibly scoffed at. :) I do know Israelis who receive homemade baby blankets, though, so it isn't unheard of!Maya / מיהhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09871125878143128412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-29982919047873555182012-01-23T18:26:30.187+02:002012-01-23T18:26:30.187+02:00great post - welcome back! What's your take on...great post - welcome back! What's your take on home-made gifts... like homemade vanilla, cakes, baby blankets, decorated cutlery etc. Are those scoffed at?Yaelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-37446487240880206672012-01-23T14:08:25.225+02:002012-01-23T14:08:25.225+02:00I love this but I will have to disagree on some of...I love this but I will have to disagree on some of it. While it's still traditional to give money for an "eruah", with the influx of so many non-American anglos, physical presents are becoming more and more popular. Plus, no one has money anymore. The cost of living is far too expensive, so a lot of Israelis (not olim) are opting to give gifts. Baby showers are even becoming popular here for Israelis (they're already popular for Olim) - mostly the secular Israelis though.Hillary Glaserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07324751282239789912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-31881393396706882412012-01-23T14:00:53.877+02:002012-01-23T14:00:53.877+02:00How true - I've been here for over thirty year...How true - I've been here for over thirty years and still find some of the gift giving "etiquette" a bit confusing. Loved the post and will look foward to seeing moreAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-28267620450486751962012-01-23T11:10:16.576+02:002012-01-23T11:10:16.576+02:00In a way it is a blessing because one does have to...In a way it is a blessing because one does have to deal with family politics and high weirdness...at least for me. For my wife, who has a big family and wants to remain connected it is important for her. But I feel that one should be invited because they want you to share in their happiness and not because a person has a fat wallet. Even if we hold money, I would still give a gift...I do not need and I think others do not need to help pay a bill that they incurred. If people want to do that...they can help me pay my bills. Let's be truly altruistic.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-27520081466848425402012-01-23T10:48:18.360+02:002012-01-23T10:48:18.360+02:00If you don't get invited to many eruahs, consi...If you don't get invited to many eruahs, consider that a blessing!! Those events get expensive... to attend, not to throw. :-pMaya / מיהhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09871125878143128412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-60086986224911714292012-01-22T15:38:09.950+02:002012-01-22T15:38:09.950+02:00oops it should read..."not getting enough ali...oops it should read..."not getting enough alimony"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-22800887276291218392012-01-22T15:36:57.706+02:002012-01-22T15:36:57.706+02:00One other point...my older brother in law got
rem...One other point...my older brother in law got <br />remarried and his first exwife taking umbrage at this and feeling she was getting enough alimony actually had her attorney come to the wedding and take the money from the vault or whatever they call it. So, gifts are easier in the long run.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-10433028467983642132012-01-22T15:16:52.434+02:002012-01-22T15:16:52.434+02:00My wife(who is Israeli, but considers herself more...My wife(who is Israeli, but considers herself more of an American) told me once that this is done to pay off the hall, food, entertainment, etc. Both of us do not have steady jobs and thus not a lot of money. We do not use checks, just cash. So we give an apporiate gift. My mother in law claims this is why we do not get invited to many events and is so much ashamed that we give a gift...writes a check which includes an amount for both me and my wife. We really do not like this. My wife tells me that this concept of money at an event is fairly new and was not around when she grew up. She thinks that most Israeli's now are just materialistic and love money and it makes her very sad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-32529318337348085232012-01-22T14:54:33.840+02:002012-01-22T14:54:33.840+02:00You're making me more and more Israeli. Thank ...You're making me more and more Israeli. Thank you! I need it. :-)Yochevedhttp://www.naturaltoothsoap.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5746038026718535483.post-37320568154431492932012-01-22T11:32:56.895+02:002012-01-22T11:32:56.895+02:00LOVE THIS!! Emily Cohen from Israeli Parents Blog ...LOVE THIS!! Emily Cohen from Israeli Parents Blog :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com